Remarriage Preparation & Communication - Don't Forget to Do This Every Day!

As you're preparing to remarry, figuring out this communication thing is pretty important. Most remarrying couples are very sensitive to what they call, "getting it right this time." If lack of communication was a barrier in your last marriage, then better communication is probably pretty high on your priority list for this marriage. Well, it's time to be specific so you can learn skills rather than just be frustrated because you don't think you communicate well.

Married couples will see one another on a daily basis as they are sharing their lives. That's why day to day sharing skills are so important. In order to remain feeling connected to one another you're going to need to talk about what's going on in your family and your individual lives.

You need to understand that men and women do this in significantly different ways. Men tend to be very task oriented in their communication. They want and give the facts. Women tend to speak more relationally. They focus their communication on how people reacted to the events of the day. This is why women speak almost 2 words for every 1 a man utters. It's not that one communication style is better than the other, it's just that they are different and you need to appreciate the differences rather than accuse one partner of being a poor communicator.

This day to day sharing is important not just for the relationship, but also for a successful family. We're not focusing exclusively on "deep" conversations here. Your day to day sharing mostly includes knowing who needs to be where, when and if any major events happened in someone's day today. The key with this type of communication is just letting each other know you care by your willingness to invest time in them to hear them out if they have anything to say.