Solving Interpersonal Conflict

Communication is Essential. The importance of keeping lines of communication open is readily understood by nations that spend millions each year sending ambassadors to one country or another. Communication is no less important on an interpersonal level.

Interpersonal conflicts must be kept very personal for the benefit of all. It is very tempting to tell others to get sympathy or supporters for our cause. The proper love for another would demand that one not tell others. It would save embarrassment on the part of both the offender and the offended.

Things are not always what we perceive them to be. If our perception of a situation is wrong and we tell others before confronting the person involved, then we have dealt a grave injustice in regards to the truth and the one involved. How many times have people said, "Oh, if I only had a chance to explain." A distorted perception may cause one to see a problem that does not exist. If publicized, one is guilty of telling something that is not true and iniquity abounds! Confidentiality would save trouble and embarrassment for all.

There is much wisdom in keeping interpersonal conflict confidential. Such a practice would prevent gossip, more misunderstanding, more hurt feelings, dissension, and strife among family, friends, and brethren. Too many times we are guilty of getting things blown out of proportion by those who do not understand all the facts surrounding the circumstance.